whats the point of all this? (2 Viewers)

[quokka]

lmao tyty
i need a 92+ for software eng but ngl software is js for the money and only cuz im good at it. i dont really want uni, or a job. i just want friends..
or, more specifically, the energy to maintain friends and whatever else i put on that list

i half blame my parents who shut down every hobby i had (photography, 3D modelling, code) because it took too much time out of studying and i did reclaim photography and code through joining clubs and choosing subject pathways and sure sometimes i remind myself "hey youve done stuff that you've dreamt of doing before" but its never truely satisfactory.

like i got so good at portrait photography that people would follow me around or ask me days in advanced for a photo, but the flip side of that is the pressure to cover every single event, and chase people up for photo consent, getting screamed at by superiors, etc. so i gave up
i skilled myself up with web design and web dev that I can build anything and yes i have done that, but the flip side of that is every project is a pressure-cooker and insurmountable variables need to be heaved together to form a cohesive product under deadlines that drive me to insanity. i still have some drive for that but web dev is my only real hobby that i intend to monetise

idk where my point is going tbh but ty for a comprehensive response lol

pls it’s the worst doing smth for ur parents and not for urself r they not letting u do photography? also on the friend regard, i also have like only 1 real friend currently in school and i intend on making more in uni cuz i hate everyone from my school so for the time being in a 2020 loser way ive made friends online, maybe try that? search on tiktok for gcs to join and stuff like that ppl always have discord servers they want ppl to join

 

[yaveen]

I think every time I got to this point during the hsc I kind of told myself that doing something is at the very least better than doing nothing. It's much better to slow down than stop completely. At that point I would be watching revision videos of early content or doing like 3 questions at a time. Take some time to focus on the things that you want to do, especially doing physical activity it helps so much. iirc school is basically starting now so just take the first maybe two afternoons of this week to have some free time - try not to think about studying at all. Then you can go back to trials study with the goal of just improving anything you can. If you really can't get any study out literally just go outside.

Also you mentioned that you wanna do software eng with a requirement of 92+ so I assume you're talking about UNSW. If so, I highly recommend checking out UNSW's portfolio entry scheme, the adjusted ATAR would be 85. Round 1 is just about to close but you can also apply for round 2.

Portfolio Entry | Additional Factors Alongside Your ATAR | UNSW Sydney

Be rewarded for your passion, creativity and potential to succeed at UNSW Sydney with Portfolio Entry, which encompasses your talent alongside your ATAR score.

www.unsw.edu.au

On a side note you have so much time to figure out the kind of person you want to be and what you want to pursue in life. Just because y12 is so busy with the study grind don't lose sight of the bigger picture, I remember writing this really long list of all the things I wanted to do in the break between end of HSC and uni and I'm still working through it now.

heyyy tysm!
I agree slowing down is better than stopping and I think I’ll start doing that today

also thank you so much for showing me what portfolio entry is. I’ll apply for round 2 because round 1 ends today loll

the list is so real Ive already made this longass note of literally everything and i think, like you, I’ll have at least some direction. Just gotta wait this out.

 

[yaveen]

pls it’s the worst doing smth for ur parents and not for urself r they not letting u do photography? also on the friend regard, i also have like only 1 real friend currently in school and i intend on making more in uni cuz i hate everyone from my school so for the time being in a 2020 loser way ive made friends online, maybe try that? search on tiktok for gcs to join and stuff like that ppl always have discord servers they want ppl to join

yeahh I used to love editing my photos and trying to get the cool golden hour shots but they just said no
2020 is so real I spent way too much time online I do have friends but I want the energy to grow the relationships that I have if that makes sense

 

[C2H6O]

give up on being someone you're not, doing something that you feel is not what you truly want. ask yourself what you actually see yourself doing, what standards you'd really like to set, because at the end of the day you bear the consequences of your actions, so don't bear the consequences of other people's expectations on your actions. if you know you'll be content without becoming a billionaire before 30 then enact that. if you want to be a billionaire before 30 then enact that, because you know the trials you go through are working toward what you see yourself as. give up pursuits that won't be fruitful, which will amount to nothing that you value. if you value friends, then give up whatever's stopping you. if you smoke but the consequences of that are not what see yourself living with, then give up what's preventing that. if you see yourself able to live with those consequences then continue. but of course i speak in hyperbole, because you don't always know what's best for your future self, but neither do people around you. the world is not black and white and change is inevitable. plan for the ahead but don't lose sight of current needs. after all if you look after your future but not your present self who will enjoy the future?

TLDR; what do you value? give up on meaningless pursuits. don't forget to look down at the present because without the present there is no future.

 

[yaveen]

give up on being someone you're not, doing something that you feel is not what you truly want. ask yourself what you actually see yourself doing, what standards you'd really like to set, because at the end of the day you bear the consequences of your actions, so don't bear the consequences of other people's expectations on your actions. if you know you'll be content without becoming a billionaire before 30 then enact that. if you want to be a billionaire before 30 then enact that, because you know the trials you go through are working toward what you see yourself as. give up pursuits that won't be fruitful, which will amount to nothing that you value. if you value friends, then give up whatever's stopping you. if you smoke but the consequences of that are not what see yourself living with, then give up what's preventing that. if you see yourself able to live with those consequences then continue. but of course i speak in hyperbole, because you don't always know what's best for your future self, but neither do people around you. the world is not black and white and change is inevitable. plan for the ahead but don't lose sight of current needs. after all if you look after your future but not your present self who will enjoy the future?

TLDR; what do you value? give up on meaningless pursuits. don't forget to look down at the present because without the present there is no future.

woah i really admire you
genuinely

youre right, even in hyperbole reframing the goals and expectations that i want for myself is necessesary to actually start working towards mental health. some decisions are less clear than others, like smoking which has an immediate advantage, but present me says that trials does matter at least a little for my future. with them being so close it would be a waste to throw away everything, but i need to scale back my expectations.

being content with limited success is fine because success isn't always a friend anyway, especially when it comes out of a place of subservience. so, youre right, i need to give up the things that are holding me back, but not everything and not so soon.

thank you

 

[Tony Stark]

How do you define success? What goals do you want to achieve in life? Will a higher ATAR contribute to these achievements, even indirectly? Where do you envision yourself in 5 years? What can you do to BE who you envision? What do you value? How can you spend time on your values (friends, family, adventuring, photographing, coding)? How can you balance what you HAVE to do (try in school, this doesn't mean try to be Jimmy from James Ruse who gets an ATAR of 300, it means to put in 101% in what you do). Split time between what you need to do and what you want to do (friends, photography, e.t.c). No one enjoys school more than hanging out, (I wish I chose a subject that includes coding, because now I can only code as a hobby), so study alongside giving time for yourself. In fact, if you give time to yourself, you are really giving time to your study, because if you aren't in the right emotional or mental state, how will you be in the right academic state? It's all part of YOU and not THEM.

BTW I'm actually kinda jealous of the websites you've worked on...sounds like you were a freelancer or smth or it was apersonal project, but the websites use no JS because I haven't had the time to learn it lol.

 

[enoilgam]

what do i do?

Ill add my two cents, I think school as a whole is greatly misunderstood by people and adults who then convey this incorrect message to students who are too young to know better. Dont look at school as being about "results" or "grades" per se, look at it as being about building skills. A high ATAR is really only of use for getting you into a few courses or for getting scholarships. For most people, an ATAR is a footnote in their lives.

What you should be getting out of school is discipline, goal setting, organisation and other general life skills. People say most of what you learn at school is useless, which is true. However, the skills you get out of it are not useless. Think about it, at school, you have work (exams, assignments etc) which you are required to complete to a certain standard within a set timeframe. To do this involves being organised, disciplined and an understanding of what is required. That is pretty much what you do at work. It is also what will be expected of you in your personal lives as spouses, parents and family members.

School is a training ground - practice your skills and try to improve on your performance. Dont get hung up on the mark. Id rather leave school with good skills and a mediocre ATAR vs cruising through and getting a good ATAR. One of those will 100% set you up for success in life, the other is of dubious effectiveness.

Also a sidenote, work on your interpersonal skills, because in the workplace relationship building/stakeholder engagement trumps intelligence in a lot of scenarios. Also, being good with people is far more useful in your family lives than an ATAR just saying.

 

[lolcti]

like really, ive been losing sight of it all

i cant bring myself to study at all because this stress isn't real, it ends

everyday im told that this shit is so difficult, yet the same people say to not stress because everyone ends up in the same place. i get that its supposed to be reassuring to those who don't do well, but all that means for me is that the effort i put in is just useless

i cant see the purpose in being stressed about a number, i can see the purpose in being stressed about other things that actually contribute to fulfillment in life, but i got none of that. for nearly 6 years i just threw everything away for academics and got nothing out of it.

i can write essays, code websites, do well on exams, compress content and battle with deadlines.
but i barely got friends, can't see them anyway cuz i go out like once a month max, got no hobbies, no style, barely exercise, can't cook, street retarded, uncultured, integrityless, the list goes on

first place is a prison anyway.

what do i do?

Damn this is so deep and real

 

[lolcti]

My advice is go to the gym, it’s my free therapy but in all honesty you will be okay, there’s 10 more weeks left and then it’s all over. Try become friends with more people in your grade, be confident, be stupid, it’s not too late yet.